How do we cut the cost without cutting the habit?

Attack the sitter first, since it is the biggest non-food line — swapping evenings with another couple removes 1,200 a year at this frequency. After that, an earlier booking or a set menu moves the meal more than skipping drinks does.

Is fortnightly too often?

That is a budget question, not a relationship one. 3,840 is about 320 a month; if that sits comfortably alongside your other commitments it is fine, and if it does not, twelve well-chosen evenings beat twenty-four resented ones.

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Twice a month is 3,840 a year — and the sitter is a third of it

A date night feels like a dinner. Priced honestly it is dinner plus drinks plus getting there plus, for anyone with young children, somebody to watch them. Annualised, a fortnightly habit is a serious line in the household budget — and the childcare, not the restaurant, is what quietly ends it.

How it works

Totals one evening across every line, not just the bill you sign at the table.
Multiplies by how often you actually go, turning a comfortable per-night number into the annual one.
Shows what share the babysitter takes, which is the line couples underestimate most.

per night = meal + drinks + childcare + transport

annual = per night × outings per year

fortnightly = 24 outings; monthly = 12

Worked example

Dinner for two at 60, drinks 30, a sitter for the evening at 50, transport 20 — fortnightly.

one night: 60 + 30 + 50 + 20 = 160
the sitter alone is 50 of that — 31%
fortnightly: 160 × 24 = 3,840 a year
monthly instead: 160 × 12 = 1,920

3,840 a year for a fortnightly habit. Halving the frequency does not halve the value of the habit, but it does free 1,920 — roughly a week away for two.

Reading the result

Childcare at 31% is why the going-out budget collapses when the first child arrives. The dinner did not get more expensive; a whole new line appeared beneath it.
Two couples alternating sitting duties removes that line entirely for both, which is a larger saving than any amount of choosing cheaper restaurants.
The useful comparison is not date night against nothing. It is twenty-four evenings against twelve evenings plus a holiday — both are defensible, but only one of them is usually chosen deliberately.
Transport is small per night and not small per year. At 20 a time it is 480 annually, which is more than most people would guess.

Common questions

How do we cut the cost without cutting the habit?: Attack the sitter first, since it is the biggest non-food line — swapping evenings with another couple removes 1,200 a year at this frequency. After that, an earlier booking or a set menu moves the meal more than skipping drinks does.
Is fortnightly too often?: That is a budget question, not a relationship one. 3,840 is about 320 a month; if that sits comfortably alongside your other commitments it is fine, and if it does not, twelve well-chosen evenings beat twenty-four resented ones.